Dr (during a routine ultrasound): Baby’s heart beat and breathing are good … fluid level is ... adequate.
Dr: Yes, adequate
Me: That doesn’t sound good
Dr: No…it’s adequate
Me: So should I be worried?
Dr: Only if I said it wasn’t adequate
Me: Ummm ... ok. So, I feel like you’re telling me that something could be wrong…and using a nice word to go about it
Dr: No, I’m telling you that everything is fine
Me: So we’re having a definition problem?
Dr (now staring at me blankly): uhhh…
Me: Because if someone told me that I did an adequate job at something – I would want to know how I could improve…and do better. But I don't quite know how to improve upon my fluid levels. In fact - it tweaks me out to think about it.
Dr: That’s really a different context though
Me: Ok…so if my doctor told me I was in adequate health, I would ask what I could do to improve my health
Dr: Ok (sounding annoyed) ... the fluid level is fine. It’s fine…it’s where it should be.
Me: Fine is a much better word for me.